The Vivir Way
In a world of inevitable change and challenges, we champion a mindful and empowered approach for developing and sustaining emotional fitness through life’s ups and downs, power by our proprietary Emotional Updating technique.
Choosing The Best Life Possible
The Vivir Emotional Fitness Framework
At Vivir, our approach is built on over 30 years of clinical insight from Dr. Hercules’ medical practice, helping individuals navigate and overcome their most deeply rooted internal challenges.
From this experience, we’ve developed a comprehensive framework that forms the foundation of our emotional fitness approach. This framework is:
Broadly applicable for overcoming any kind of emotional distress
Designed to facilitate independent, self-directed growth
Solution-oriented with a focus on real progress, not just coping
Each facet of the framework plays a distinct role in building emotional fitness, and together, they support the lifelong journey of personal well-being.
Framework at a Glance
Commitment
Foundational Mindset for Emotional Fitness
Action
Three Pillars for Developing Emotional Fitness
Target
Five Key Measures of Emotional Fitness
Outcome
The Self-Actualization Growth Cycle
Commitment
Foundational Mindset For Emotional Fitness
At Vivir, we believe that a good quality of life depends on committing to two fundamental choices: confronting reality and responding to it positively. The more consistently we make these choices, the better our lives become, within the limits of our control.
Confronting Reality
We must face reality to understand it. By consistently confronting reality for exactly what it is, we have a greater possibility of dealing with it effectively.
Reality is always in front of us. Whether we acknowledge it or not, it’s there, staring back at us.
Avoiding reality doesn’t change it. Ignoring difficult situations only makes them worse over time.
Facing reality gives us power. When we choose to see things as they are, we gain the ability to deal with them effectively.
The sooner we confront reality, the better. The longer we delay, the more restricted and limited we become.
Reality may be uncomfortable, but confronting it is the first step toward progress.
Responding Positively
Our actions and attitude impact everything. To ensure the best possible outcomes, we should always find the most constructive, optimistic, and empowered way to handle the reality we encounter.
We always have a choice. No matter the situation, we can choose how we respond.
Positivity is a mindset. To get the best outcome, we must be constructive, optimistic, and empowered in our response.
Difficult circumstances don’t excuse negativity. Even when we didn’t create the situation, we still control how we handle it.
Positivity doesn’t guarantee perfect results. But it does ensure the best possible outcome given the reality we face.
Every moment is a chance to ask: “Am I being as constructive, optimistic, and empowered as I can be?” If not, it’s up to us to adjust our response.
Action
Three Pillars for Developing Emotional Fitness
Emotional fitness is not theoretical; it is built through action. It involves the consistent application of effort over time – practices, skills, and behaviors – that must be trained and refined. These pillars represent the key actions that must be taken to experience the benefits of emotional fitness. Without them, progress will be limited.
CORE SKILL
Learn to Untrigger Yourself
Learn the Emotional Updating technique so you can untrigger yourself and break free from the painful cycles of avoidance, coping, and suffering of your emotional distress.
HABITUAL PRACTICE
Consistent Commitment to Growth
Build a sustainable emotional fitness routine that enhances resilience, clarity, and balance, empowering you to confront life’s ups and downs consistently over time.
SELF-EMPOWERMENT
Insight in Action
Deepen your personal growth through better understanding your emotional landscape and practical application of emotional fitness by cultivating knowledge, authentic self-worth, and alignment with your true, positive self.
Target
Five Key Measures of Emotional Fitness
These define, aspirationaly, what it means to be emotional fitness. It refers to the specific emotional capacities that reflect meaningful emotional well-being. These are not fixed traits, but qualities to be continually developed through practice.
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VITALITY
Having vitality means living everyday life with vigor, fully alive in the moment and actively engaged with the world around us. When we have vitality, we can fully appreciate, respond to, and influence our day-to-day experiences.
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POSITIVITY
Positivity is the ability to confront reality with a constructive and optimistic attitude, regardless of the circumstances. It involves seeing potential and opportunity in challenges, rather than just obstacles, drawbacks, or downsides.
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RESILIENCY
Resilience is the capacity to bounce back quickly from difficulties. It's about recovering strength and confidence after setbacks, failures, or rejections. Resilient individuals not only withstand adversities but also grow from them.
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ADAPTABILITY
Adaptability involves the flexibility to adjust thoughts and behaviors in response to changing circumstances. It is about being open to new ideas and different ways of doing things, and smoothly transitioning strategies when the situation demands.
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SERENITY
Serenity means maintaining a state of calm and tranquility, even in the face of turmoil. With unwavering inner stability, serenity allows for clear thinking and decision-making, free from the disruptive influences of anxiety and stress.
Outcome
The Self-Actualization Growth Cycle
This refers to the long-term transformation that results from sustained emotional work. It is an on-going process of becoming more fully and authentically oneself.
Know Yourself
Understand your habits and patterns across various dimensions of your life to identify triggered emotional responses holding you back from realizing your full potential.
Love Yourself
As you initiate the process of change, new learnings, tools, and behaviors foster a profound love and compassion for yourself, creating a nurturing environment for transformation.
Trust Yourself
With a strengthened emotional foundation, you begin to build trust in your abilities, instincts, and decisions, empowering you to create a life of your design.
Be Yourself
Liberating yourself from the chains of outdated emotional responses, you can finally embrace your true, authentic self in personal realms, romantic relationships, and family dynamics.